Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Omitting the TRUTH......
Jason and I have been omitting the truth the last month or so. Please don't take offense. It was just more than we could handle and worry about.
At my 20 week ultra sound when we found out it was a boy I did not see my Dr. It was a nurse. She had mentioned that there were a few "things" in the ultra sound that raised no concern, they were just little curious. One would be a calcification on the babies heart. The other would be enlarged kidneys. (the tubes were measuring 4mm and 3mm is normal)
Later that day the Dr called and went over the appointment. He re-told me about the "things" and wanted to refer me to a Maternal Fetal Medicine Dr to have another ultra sound.
(Mind you nobody has told me anything about what these "things" mean)
The next week I get a mailer with directions and two pamphlets. One is about GENETIC BIRTH DEFECTS and the other is for DOWN SYNDROM. As it turns out these two "things" are markers for Downs. So as I was thinking this was just another ultra sound, it turns out we have an appointment for an ultra sound, doctor consult and genetic counseling. Basically to determine for Downs.
As you can guess this ROCKED Jason and I. I feel like I have had sand in my brain for the past couple of weeks.
Today was the appointment. The babies kidneys are totally normal, but the heart still shows a calcium deposit. There will be no developmental or functioning issues with the heart. It is a marker for downs. One of THIRTY FIVE. We have a 1/1000 chance of a having a baby with Downs. We are entitled to have and amnio, but the risk of miscarriage is greater than having Downs. Basically they said there is no reason for us to worry.
We have a 99% chance that the baby is perfect. But it's crazy that if you gave me those odds of winning the lottery I would be jacked, but when somebody says you have a 99% of a healthy baby, it's not good enough.
Jason and I are not having an amnio. We are going along with this pregnancy as we did before all this. Healthy baby, no need to worry.
Sorry we did not give you all the chance to pray for us, and fast. It was just such an overload.