Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Omitting the TRUTH......






HI!!!!!



Jason and I have been omitting the truth the last month or so. Please don't take offense. It was just more than we could handle and worry about.

At my 20 week ultra sound when we found out it was a boy I did not see my Dr. It was a nurse. She had mentioned that there were a few "things" in the ultra sound that raised no concern, they were just little curious. One would be a calcification on the babies heart. The other would be enlarged kidneys. (the tubes were measuring 4mm and 3mm is normal)

Later that day the Dr called and went over the appointment. He re-told me about the "things" and wanted to refer me to a Maternal Fetal Medicine Dr to have another ultra sound.

(Mind you nobody has told me anything about what these "things" mean)

The next week I get a mailer with directions and two pamphlets. One is about GENETIC BIRTH DEFECTS and the other is for DOWN SYNDROM. As it turns out these two "things" are markers for Downs. So as I was thinking this was just another ultra sound, it turns out we have an appointment for an ultra sound, doctor consult and genetic counseling. Basically to determine for Downs.

As you can guess this ROCKED Jason and I. I feel like I have had sand in my brain for the past couple of weeks.

Today was the appointment. The babies kidneys are totally normal, but the heart still shows a calcium deposit. There will be no developmental or functioning issues with the heart. It is a marker for downs. One of THIRTY FIVE. We have a 1/1000 chance of a having a baby with Downs. We are entitled to have and amnio, but the risk of miscarriage is greater than having Downs. Basically they said there is no reason for us to worry.

We have a 99% chance that the baby is perfect. But it's crazy that if you gave me those odds of winning the lottery I would be jacked, but when somebody says you have a 99% of a healthy baby, it's not good enough.

Jason and I are not having an amnio. We are going along with this pregnancy as we did before all this. Healthy baby, no need to worry.

Sorry we did not give you all the chance to pray for us, and fast. It was just such an overload.

13 SAY WHAT??????????????????:

Megan said...

I am sorry for the scare, it sucks. I hate the whole genetic counseling thing. I hope you are doing better. thinking of you!!!Megan

Tonya said...

oh my gosh. I had no idea... of course. Not like you haven't had enough 5 billion other things to worry about lately! You guys are amazing dealing with all you do. We'll still keep you guys in our prayers anyways and I'm glad the scare turned out not to be anything really scary. Let us know if we can do anything to help--with all the stuff you're in the middle of right now!! And thanks for the update.

Erin said...

I'm sorry that you've been going through this. Yuck. Now, I have the chance to pray for you, you babe, and your family. Know that we are thinking of you and take care.

Danielle said...

I decided to go blog surfing and came across yours. The same thing happened to me. One of my twins had two precursors/markers for Down's. I also went to the Fetal/Maternal Drs. and they told me the same thing...chances are your baby will be okay. He was. I am sure your little guy will be fine. I think maybe we have a reality check or scare to make us really appreciate things. Best of luck. Your kids are SO cute!

Angie said...

I'm so sorry Alli. Really, truly. If I've learned anything over the last few weeks, it's that the Lord has a plan for us - and that we are never given anything more than we can handle - You are so strong, and I know that regardless of the outcome, you will be blessed. Love you!

Cam and Chaly said...

So sorry about the scare! Let us know if we can do anything! We are thinking of you and you are in your prayers!

Natalie said...

I am so sorry that you have had to deal with this scare. I am praying for you and especially for your little boy! I love you and if you ever need anything, call me!
Love ya!

sherman and juliette said...

When I was pregnant with Katelyn the ultrasound showed a heart calcification as well. We were also sent to Maternal Fetal Medicine, scary I know! They also gave us that 99% chance for a healthy baby and that is what we got. So hang in there, he will be a beautiful healthy little boy! Best of luck, can't wait to see the little guy!

Heather said...

Alli, my heart goes out to you in this time of uncertainty. You have a great spirit. Hold strong to your testimony and know that you have so many people that love and pray for you (& your family). Sending BIG hugs your way (via the world wide web), hang in there!
Loves, Heather

Joleen said...

Sorry for the scare Sweets!!! You'll be in our thoughts and prayers!!

Laura said...

We've had a scare or two with every SINGLE baby and all four have been healthy. I'm so sorry you have to go through the worry for no reason. Love you guys!

Laura said...

Oh, and you look adorable too!!! Mmmmm, I miss being pregnant.

Leah said...

Alli, I have totally been away from the blogging world for awhile... I would've commented sooner. Sorry you had to go through this and silently too. You and Jason are wonderful parents no matter the outcome, this baby is going to be LOVED. Hang in there, I am praying for you and thinking of ya. :)

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